Thanks, everyone, for your input so far on this. Nobody, so far, has disagreed with my premise that the variety and diversity of words loaded with gender and aimed at women are far more varied and specific than the vocabulary we have for describing men.
With your input the list now reads as follows:
spinster
MILF
not just a pretty face
cougar
cat lady
pushy
gold-digger
glamorous
frigid
easy
woman of a certain age
whore
bike
beautiful
pretty
‘real woman’
bird
asking for it
curvy
skinny minnie
slag
slut
sort
old bag
mutton dressed as lamb
bunny boiler
bint
yummy mummy
blonde
busty
babe
girlie
duck
chicken
hen
skirt
betty
wench
goddess
bubbly
vivacious
pert
feisty
bouncy
femme fatale
fiery
temperamental
firecracker
ice maiden
intuitive
voluptuous
tart
queen bee
bluestocking
ball breaker
jailbait
sugar
honey
brunette
redhead
fat cow
bitch
prick tease
fag hag
leggy
trophy blonde
bit on the side
piece of skirt
Grandma
Lambrini girl
diva
right little madam
geek girl
ingénue
femme
dyke
tomboy
sweetie
blossom
love
honeychild
tramp
tart
hag
barren-bitch
trollop
witch
slapper
cow
old dear
Mrs. Robinson
lolita
trophy wife
Thai bride
doll
geisha
big boned
troll
working mum
career woman
‘strong female character’
strumpet
ladette

I’m sure this isn’t exhaustive, but it’s a useful starting point to illustrate the point I think I’m trying to make, and to use in the performance I’m making. So thanks very much. x